Conquering Bedtime Battles: Strategies for Handling Bedtime Resistance with Toddlers

Bedtime battles are a common thrilling (and exhausting) showdown between tired parents and their pint-sized bedtime avoiders. Toddlers can be a big challenge, but fear not! Here are some practical strategies to make bedtime more enjoyable and cooperative for both you and your little one:

1. Set the Stage:

Create a Bedtime Oasis. Transform your child's bedroom into a sleep sanctuary. Dim the lights, play soft lullabies, and infuse the air with soothing scents like lavender. Turn bedtime into a magical experience that they look forward to each night.

2. Enlist the Power of Choice:

Give your little one a sense of control by offering choices within bedtime routines. Would they like to wear the blue pajamas or the purple ones? Which stuffed animal will be their bedtime buddy tonight? This helps them feel empowered and reduces resistance.

3. A Tale of Dreams:

Captivate your child's imagination with storytelling and lull them into dreamland. Craft tales starring their favorite characters, embarking on wild adventures that end in the coziest of dreams. You can play a game where you each add to the story.

4. Relaxation Techniques

Introduce relaxation techniques that soothe their busy minds and bodies. Try gentle yoga stretches, deep breathing exercises, massage with lotion, or even a pretend "magic sleep spell" to help them unwind and drift off peacefully.

5. Playtime Partners

Have a stuffed animal sleepover. Invite your child's favorite stuffed animals for a "sleepover party" in their room. Create a mini slumber party scene with blankets, pillows, and their plush pals. This not only adds a touch of fun but also fosters a sense of comfort and security.

6. Time for the Tunes

Craft a special bedtime playlist filled with soothing melodies that ease your child into dreamland. From gentle lullabies to calming instrumentals, let the music work its magic and guide them to a peaceful sleep.

7. Shhh! The Whisper Game

Turn bedtime into a whisper-filled adventure. Encourage your child to speak softly and engage in a whisper game. It's a sweet way to create a tranquil atmosphere and prepare their minds for slumber. You can read a story while whispering to make the environment less stimulating and calm them down before bed.

8. Rewards for Rest:

Create a “Dreamy Treasure Chest”  filled with small rewards or bedtime surprises. Each time your little one successfully goes to bed without a fuss, they get to choose a special token from the chest. This incentive will make bedtime more exciting. You can also use this technique if they follow all bedtime “rules” remaining in their beds throughout the night.

9. Imaginary Play

The Power of Imaginary Play taps into your child's imaginative powers. During play with superheroes, figures, stuffed animals or dolls, role play your ideal bedtime scenario. This will help your little one predict and understand expectations each night. It's a fun way to make bedtime a heroic adventure!

10. Secret Weapon: Consistency

Consistency is key! Remember, dear parents, that consistency is your secret weapon. Establish a consistent bedtime routine (same order of events in the same locations in your house) and stick to it. Consistency provides comfort, familiarity, and sets clear expectations, making the transition to sleep smoother.

Stay patient and soon bedtime battles will become a thing of the past. Use these strategies, to help you reclaim your nights and turn bedtime battles into bedtime bliss!

By: Dr. Laura Daniels PT, DPT, Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant